Below is an excerpt from an article by sex author Violet Blue.

It’s still not as cheap as a subscription to your favorite porn site, but with the way the Kindle has been absorbed by consumers, it’s surprising that we aren’t seeing annoying “Kindle addiction” sites spring up around the net. Faster than a numb journalist can write a headline about nonexistent G-spots, the Kindle’s seemingly everywhere. And though the files are locked up with DRM, they have offered more to content producers for distribution access than analog book distribution models. And for sex, that’s always a good thing.

Want to kink up your Kindle but don’t know where to start? Bay Area publishers and authors bring the sauce on Kindle’s platform, with UK sex writers coming in to fill out what has become a full market of fiction and nonfiction sex lit, much of it made just for the Kindle. However, everyone knows by now that you can’t search the Kindle store for “sex” and actually get any. No, what you need to score for your Kindle is a wingman. Or winggirl.

Kindle’s top 10 erotica bestsellers right now include recommended titles “Guilty Pleasure” by Lora Leigh (#1), “Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women” (by yours truly, #4), “Frenzy: 60 Stories of Sudden Sex” by Alison Tyler (#6), “The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty” by A. N. Roquelare AKA Anne Rice (#8), and “Total Eclipse of the Heart” by Zane (#9). Two of the top collections come from San Francisco sex publishing powerhouse Cleis Press (cleispress.com). On Kindle they have a bevy of tasty titles, ranging from highbrow erotic literature to sex journalism culled from mainstream majors. Cleis’ hot new 2010 titles on Kindle range from the nonfiction sex essay collection “Best Sex Writing 2010” edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel (rachelkramerbussel.com) and “Special Forces: Gay Military Erotica” edited by Phillip MacKenzie Jr., to “Best Lesbian Romance 2010” edited by Radclyffe and the “Best Women’s Erotica” series.

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WASHINGTON — The pioneer of media sex therapists, Dr Ruth Westheimer, has teamed up with the city of Washington to promote a 28-day romance stimulus plan for the US capital.

“The word stimulus is a dream. It has something arousing,” Westheimer, who is better known under as Dr Ruth, said at a press conference to announce the partnership.

Dr Ruth will serve as honorary US Secretary of Love and Relations during the month of February — the month of Valentine’s Day — with the brief to “jump-start the District’s love economy.”

Around 16 million tourists, including 1.5 million from abroad, visit Washington every year — but few head to the US capital for a romantic get-away.

In fact, Washington ranked second to last out of 30 US cities that visitors think of as romantic destinations, according to an annual poll to find America’s favorite cities.

Throughout February, Washington will put a new, lovey-dovey spin on its monuments, museums and restaurants.

Couples are being offered 20 percent off the entrance fee at Madame Tussaud’s museum in the US capital, and a two-for-the-price-of-one offer during the week of Valentine’s Day — February 14 — at the news-orientated Newseum.

Born Karola Ruth Siegel in Germany in 1928, Dr. Ruth was sent to a children’s home in Switzerland at the age of 10 to escape the Holocaust.

At 17, she went to Israel, and later moved to Paris where she studied at the Sorbonne and taught kindergarten.

She emigrated to the United States in 1956 and obtained a masters degree in sociology from the New School of Social Research in New York, a doctorate of education from Columbia University, and later studied human sexuality at Cornell University.

In 1980, she started a 15-minute radio program in New York called Sexually Speaking. A year later, the show had grown to an hour-long live show.

Dr Ruth has now appeared on television, has her own website, and even an iPhone app that says sex-related words in the doctor’s distinctive European accent.

Her message to Washington locals and visitors in February was to get out and do something in the city.

“Do something for Valentine’s Day, go to the museum, take the risk to talk to someone. At least you know one thing: this person is not a couch potato,” she said.

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Lately, we’ve been a little obsessed with the notches on bedposts. Maybe it’s because a bunch of celeb man whores made us feel like prudes, or a few female celebs made us feel like really Frisky gals (well, except for Joan Crawford). Anyway, what we found so shocking was that, while Warren Beatty supposedly has slept with over 12,775 women since he became a star, by our count, Madonna’s only had 31. It begs the question, how are these men sleeping with this many women, yet the women aren’t sleeping with that many men?

The answer is just as you suspected: They’re lying! And now we have proof thanks to some well-spent tax dollars! According to the most recent “Statistical Abstract Of The United States,” the average dude between 15 and 44 says he’s boned 5.4 women. A quarter of those guys said they slept with more than 15 girls. On the other hand, the ladies only opened up their business for 3.3 men, on average, with only 9.2 percent saying they had more than 15 partners. Are those above-average women the prostitutes who all these men are frequenting? Maybe. But most likely, guys are probably so insecure about being perceived as macho enough to be playahs that they’ll even lie on a confidential census test. Aw, that’s so cute! Not.

Look, handsome, whether or not the vagina-enabled think you’re a stud doesn’t depend on how many women you’ve been able to make sexy times with. Please, guys, keep in mind we gals like experienced gentlemen, and by that we mean a man who has done it with one girl long enough to learn how to do it right. You don’t have to bang half the world to blow us away! All you need is one love, or, uh, 3.3, as the case may be. [Washington Post]

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Young Swedes have ever more fluid definitions of sex and sexuality, according to a new study from Malmö University in southern Sweden. Women in particular are more likely to pursue sexual activities with others of the same gender.

“We are seeing a greater openness among young people, particularly among young women. There is an increasing interest in experimenting and pushing boundaries, and a growing resistance to defining oneself as heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual,” Sven-Axel Månsson, a Malmö University sociology professor, told Dagens Nyheter (DN) newspaper.

Månsson and colleague Kristian Daneback surveyed 855 young people between the ages of 18 and 24 via an online questionnaire.

The survey showed that 31 percent of young women and 7 percent of young men said that they were most often sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex, but sometimes they were attracted to people of their own gender.

Thirty-nine percent of the women and 8 percent of the men reported having sexual fantasies about both genders.

Young women were also far more likely than their male counterparts to act on their same-sex fantasies, with 13 percent of female respondents and 3 percent of male respondents reporting that they have had sex with both men and women.

“Girls are less bound by norms than guys are; it is not as taboo for them to have sex with (other women),” Månsson told DN.

He added that the figures for women having sex with other women were “strikingly high”.

“Many no longer wish to be tied in to rigid sexual identities, they want to be open and free as people and as sexual beings. That is my interpretation,” said Månsson.

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Truth be told, this is no video. This is Durex’s tribute to the sweet and strange sounds of success.

Why would Durex use this advertisement to sell condoms in China? We’re not sure. Maybe they’re trying to embed subliminal links between condom use and multiple orgasms. Or, more realistically, they’re giving the public the sex they want without running into censorship issues (yet). Either way, everyone can appreciate a quick sampler of orgasms (even if we’re most comfortable with “American style”).

· Durex China: Enjoy moaning (adsoftheworld.com)
· Durex (durex.com)
· Unrelated audiophile pic via Little Liana (galleries.littleliana.com)

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The Frisky reports:

Nooooo! Famously never-married couple, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins, have split up after 23 years together, her publicist has confirmed.

Sarandon and Robbins met on the set of “Bull Durham,” and, despite a 12-year age difference, had a long relationship and two sons together. (Sarandon’s daughter, Eva Amurri, is from a past relationship.) The split actually occurred over the summer, her publicist explained, but I guess no one noticed until now. [People]

Oh my stars. If Susan Sarandon can’t make a relationship work, what hope is there for the rest of us?

Maddy’s note: Maybe now she can track down Rocky again… gotta look on the bright side somehow, right?

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The Frisky has compiled a list of “21 Sexy Christmas Gifts That’ll Gross You Out.” How about some musical Christmas-themed boxers or a Rudolph the Red-Nosed Penis reindeer thong for the man in your life? I have to say, though, I would LOVE an “I Rub My Duckie” rubber duckie vibrator Christmas tree ornament! I don’t see what’s gross about half of these things, actually, but then I see lots of kinky stuff that would blow most people’s minds in putting together this blog. OK, the gaudy holiday sweater for 200 bucks from Ralph Lauren truly IS perverse, I will admit, and I’m not sure who would want an ornament featuring Santa with his pants down to show off his thong underwear. And if you, too, would like your own boob ornament, the article includes links to buy everything. Helpful!

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2009: the year of the robot that mimics the love stylings of your favorite pornstars, a tiny little toy jampacked with ten eager tongues, and a wireless vibe that syncs with your iPod. So many innovations…but which were the best?

As the year draws to a close, we’ve reviewed our reviews from 2009, and scientifically determined just which toys were the best of the best this year. Below, our picks for the tops in toys.

10) The Real Touch: With a few rare exceptions, high end (and high tech) sex toys are almost exclusively targeted at women. The Real Touch is looking to change that. A high tech masturbator that syncs with POV porn, the Real Touch may just change the face of toys for boys. True, it has its problems (most notably, the fact that it won’t work if you’re not paying per minute for AEBN’s porn)—but it’s promising enough to give us hope for the future.

9) OhMiBod Freestyle: After years on the scene, the OhMiBod has finally reached its full potential. With the Freestyle’s wireless connection, you can finally rock out to your tunes without being tied down to them.

8 ) Tenth Anniversary Tristan Butt Plug: The Tenth Anniversary Tristan Plug takes a good thing and makes it better (or at least bigger). A beefed up version of the original Tristan plug, the 10th anniversary edition is a must have for any butt aficionado in need of an upgrade.

7) Bolero Straitjacket **BEST LUXURY TOY**: This delightful bondage device combines the efficient immobilization of the straitjacket with the delicious eroticism of being nearly naked. True, it’s not cheap—but if you’re willing and able to invest in your BDSM toy chest, it’s an excellent addition.

6) Imperial: With 11 inches of aircraft quality spun aluminum, the Imperial is bound to please any and all size queens—especially the ones who enjoy toys with the ability to pleasure and violently disfigure.

5) Bloomy: A wonderful dildo for the girls, and a p-spot stimulating butt plug for the boys—Bloomy’s a toy that everyone can enjoy! (Just, uh, remember to sterilize it before sharing.)

4) Finger Tingles **BEST BUY**: Since the day we first discovered sex, we’ve wondered whether there could ever be away to improve on the erotic abilities of the simple little finger. The answer, friends, is yes: with the help of the Finger Tingles, your mild-mannered digit becomes a super finger.

3) Contour Q **BEST DISCREET TOY**: Don’t be fooled by Contour Q’s innocent appearance: these bumpy little massage stones know their way around a woman’s body. And we do mean all parts of the body.

2) Sqweel: With the Sqweel, Love Honey set out to create a toy that replicates the sensation of oral sex. While they may not have quite achieved that goal, they did create a wholly unique toy that stimulates in a very unusual (and very pleasing) way.

1) Form 2: Small, sleek, and super-powered: the rabbit-inspired Form 2 has two silicone ears that are all revved up and ready to rock. And just like a real rabbit, this thing won’t quit until long after you’re satisifed.

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Her vagina looks like roast beef curtains. His penis resembles a melting meat popsicle.

When I read or hear comments that regard someone’s genitalia as unsightly, my instinctual response is to say, “no way.” We are all different, but we are all beautiful. Right? Wrong.

I have always wondered if there was such a thing as an unattractive vagina. A quick survey with male colleagues made it clear that looks below the belt matter.

“Yes, there is definitely such a thing as an ugly vagina,” said one man. “It can look like ground meat.”

“Loose skin down there definitely is a big turn off,” another man mentioned.

To be fair, I also asked women about penises and they were equally critical of the male sex organ.

“Discoloration, veins and wrinkles are gross,” one woman said. “Also, please trim the ball hair.”

“An ugly penis is crooked or the head doesn’t look right,” another woman pointed out.

I think pornography is a big factor in unrealistic expectations of what we perceive normal, healthy genitals to be. Visual erotica is full of perfectly trimmed, pink vaginas, while images of extra labia skin and large clitorises, other than on fetish sites, are nearly nonexistent.

Men also become bombarded with imagery of smooth, straight penises that measure to impressive lengths and are surrounded by little hair.

Because of the pressure to look good in the bedroom, more people are turning to genital surgery. The other day, I saw an online ad for vaginoplasty, an unusual cosmetic procedure that can superficially enhance the look of a person’s privates. Genital plastic surgery rose 30 percent in 2006, according to an article from the National Sexuality Resource Center. Men can also change their penis’ aesthetics by having a phalloplasty, which is the enlargement or enhancement of the penis.

If you are self-conscious about how your genitals look, I recommend skipping expensive surgeries and, instead, work on building body confidence. Get to know the area by examining it in a mirror or by touching yourself. Appreciate the fact your intimates are sources for personal pleasure, making love and creating life.

Though my research showed me looks do matter to some, I was pleased to find out, overall, people didn’t care about what their significant other had going on down under.

“If it gives you the ride of your life, don’t drop a guy just because the penis is not good looking,” someone said. “It’s there for a purpose, not a pose.”

Many of the guys I asked said, if they cared about the woman, what her private parts looked like was completely irrelevant.

After all, it’s not the vagina that has the personality.

SOURCE: THE ONION (Yes, really, The Onion)

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Every gal likes to feel a little yee-haw in her hoo-haw from time to time, but there are some women out there who mutter more “oohs” and “ahhs” in an hour than a pack of car geeks at a hot rod convention. Sadly, however, this is not a case of coming and going as they please. Rather, these women suffer from a severe medical condition called persistent sexual arousal syndrome (PSAS). Car rides, bike seats, dryers … anything can set off these orgasmic time bombs. Sadly, most of the time, the overpowering arousal is unwanted. Sufferers say PSAS can be incredibly embarrassing, spontaneous, and intrusive.  The upside, of course, is immediate popularity and very few nights at home alone.

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“Today’s first base is kissing … plus fondling this and that. Second base is oral sex. Third base is going all the way. Home plate is learning each other’s names.” So wrote Tom Wolfe in his 2000 book “Hooking Up” – a term that describes a wide range of coupling from making out to intercourse.

For more than a decade, the “hookup” has been an integral part of the American college experience — a result of the increased permissiveness that came with the sexual revolution of the 1970s.

Just recently at Harvard University — sometimes pegged as “godless and liberal” — the hookup culture came under fire, mostly from a small but growing abstinence group called True Love Revolution.

They argue that women who invoke a new kind of feminism — the right to have sex whenever and with whomever they choose — is demeaning to women.

“A popular thing to say among this intellectual crowd, in the ivies and in feminism in general, is to say that sex is empowering and a real woman uses her sexuality in any way she pleases,” said Rachel Wagley, a 20-year-old sociology student who is TLR’s co-president. “It’s blatantly false and a lie that this culture tells to girls for their own benefit.” Silpa Kovvali, a 21-year-old computer science concentrator, argued in a Harvard Crimson editorial that there is nothing “inherently degrading” about engaging in casual sex — in fact, she said, it can be “empowering.” But chastity groups seem to be on to something — a growing unease that although hooking up can be liberating, it can also be annoying and sometimes destructive.

“It’s a huge part of life here,” said Maariya Bajwa, a senior at the University of Florida. “When I used to take the bus I’d hear random people having conversations about random hook ups they had. I was like, ‘Uh guys, we’re on a bus. I don’t need to hear about your one-night stands.’” By the end of senior year, the average college student has had 6.9 hookups, mostly after a “good bit of drinking,” according to a survey of 4,000 students at five universities by Stanford University sociology professor Paula England.

Her research appeared as a chapter, “Hooking Up and Forming Romantic Relationships in Today’s College Campuses,” in the 2008 book, “The Gendered Society Reader” by Oxford University Press.

Her work revealed that while 24 percent of the respondents had reported never having hooked up, 28 percent had more than 10 such casual sexual encounters.

England, who set out to explore the dating habits of college students, found they were kissing, having oral sex and sometimes intercourse with “no expectation that either party has an interest in moving toward a relationship.”

“There’s a lot of degrading treatment of some women and it is empoweringly free for other women,” she told ABCNews.com.

Hooking Up Serves Men Better Than Women

The sexual revolution began with the advent of the birth control pilll in the 1960 and legalization of abortion in 1973, for the first time allowing women to have sex without fear of pregnancy.But while feminist thinking about equal opportunity in the workplace blossomed, it didn’t take root in the “personal sphere,” according to England.

“First, men initiate more of the interaction, especially the sexual action,” she wrote. “Second, men have orgasms more frequently than women. Men’s sexual pleasure seems to be prioritized. Third, a sexual double standard persists in which women are more at risk than men of getting a bad reputation for hooking up with multiple partners.”

Students seem well aware of the double standard, one that lingered long after women began to strive for equality in the work force.

“When girls sleep with multiple people on different occasions, she is labeled as a ’slut’ or ‘whore,’ but when guys hook up with multiple girls they’re seen as heroes to the male race,” said Rachel Sloane, a senior at University of North Carolina Chapel Hill.

“As long as she isn’t taking advantage of the other person, why shouldn’t she have that right?” she asked.

Sloane said hooking up “represents a certain freedom that many people did not experience while they were in high school.”

Still, she said she has “great respect” for people like Wagley who choose celibacy. “It shows a great amount of control during a time when pressure to have sex and ‘experiment’ with one’s sexuality is at its peak.”

But others — even those who embrace a woman’s right to choose, say the hooking-up culture can be oppressive.

“I think the hook-up culture certainly dominates the social scene,” said Caitie Yaeger, a 21-year old junior at Pennsylvania’s Dickinson College. “It seems like you go to a party to get drunk, you get drunk to flirt with someone, and you flirt with someone to go home with them.” “I think many women my age might agree, feminism supports a woman’s ability to make decisions for herself,” she told ABCNews.com, “to engage in sexual activity or not to engage in sexual activity, to stay at home with her children or to be a working mother.” But, according to Yaeger, free-wheeling sex when done for the “wrong reasons” doesn’t always lead to fulfillment or a relationship.

And some say the hook-up culture — though exaggerated in the media — has done little to advance equality for women, according to Brandon McGinley, , who is president of Princeton University’s two-year-old Anscombe Society, which promotes chastity.”I think there’s a stereotype of people having rampant sex every night,” said McGinley.

But still, the problem is significant enough that his group has proposed a “safe haven” for students who are not comfortable with the hooking-up scene.

“The perception of sexual conduct puts the pressure on students,” he told ABCNews.com. “They believe their peers are having more sex than they are.”

He doesn’t disagree that women have a right to their own sexual decision making.

“But it’s not a question of one’s right, but what one ought to do,” he said.

“What we see in the hook-up culture is the general ethos toward the sexual objectification of a person. And that is problematic for both men and women and harmful for society in general.”

But Pepper Schwartz, who teaches sociology and sex at University of Washington and survived the antics of two college students, isn’t too worried about the long-lasting effects of hooking up.

“Before, guys did this gross kind of sexual behavior, and we said, ‘Boys will be boys,’ but now it’s boys and girls,” she told ABCNews.com. “Let’s hope they grow out of it.

“It’s a period of flexing their muscles and they will look back and say, ‘Oh, God, what was I thinking?’ They have the permission I didn’t have in my generation to act out, get drunk at frat parties and hook up with somebody.”

As long as students are protected against disease and pregnancy, said Schwartz, “they can do these things without impact.”

“And I hear,” she said, “it’s a lot less salacious than it sounds.”

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Chicago sounds like a very lusty place. I’ve never been there, but after reading some of these true stories of first times, I just might have to visit very soon! Yes, as the cliche goes, there’s a first time for everything: a first threesome, a first time having sex in a bathhouse, a first time having sex in public…

As you can see by the video cover above, there’s also a first time for First Time Lesbians.

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Jezebel is one of my favourite blogs about sexuality that’s written from a female perspective. Today I found an article about British porn regulations that prohibit depictions of squirting on film. Whether you believe all of those female performers can really squirt or not, the point of the article is that these regulations reflect a lack of understanding of (or even an unwillingness to understand) female sexuality. This is what stood out for me the most in the article:

The reason we still know so little about female ejaculation, and the reason the BBFCC bans depictions of it, may be one and the same. As long as real female sexuality remains shrouded in mystery, unknowable, Freud’s “dark continent,” then pornography can continue to depict a male-friendly version in which women love nothing more than multiple penetration and come easily with no clitoral stimulation. Even outside porn, the idea that women’s sexuality will never really be understood may seem both safe and attractive to male consumers — safe because it releases men from the responsibility of actually understanding what women want, and attractive because it puts real, messy female desire behind a gossamer curtain of confusion. It’s worth noting that squirting is far from absent from non-British porn, but the real issue here isn’t whether or not female ejaculation is depicted on film. The issue is whether those in charge of producing, distributing, and regulating film care about how female pleasure actually works, or if they have a vested interest in keeping audiences ignorant on this topic. In the case of the BBFCC, the answer still seems to be the latter.

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Are you a college student? Does your student newspaper have a sex column? If so, your paper is part of a growing trend. I won’t give away how long ago I was in school, but let’s just say any of us who dared to write about sex for our student newspaper would’ve been fired from the student media organization. The Nation has a good article about the increasing popularity of student sex columns in college newspapers. An excerpt:

The attraction of a sex column is simple: most college students– honestly, most people past puberty, period–are either a) having sex; b) talking about having sex; or c) all of the above. Entertainment is usually a key reason behind the publication of sex columns, but the writing is not all about fun. These controversial pieces have proved battlegrounds for the rights of the student press and “appropriate” subjects for publication (ironically, only increasing their popularity and fueling the movement).

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Hillsborough, NC – Whether it is bragged or whispered about, or awkward or embarrassing, your first time is always memorable. A recent study by Adam & Eve shows that for most folks, however, it is a positive experience.

Adam & Eve, the most trusted name in adult entertainment, recently asked over 1,000 American adults to rate their first sexual experience on a scale from one to ten. Surprisingly, nearly 70% of the respondents rated their first experience as “all right” to “amazing.”

The survey revealed that only 30% of respondents selected the answer options zero through five, meaning that around 1/3 of respondents had a less than ideal first sexual experience.

The single largest response (f28%) was that the first experience was “all right.” An additional 31% of respondents rated their first experience as better than “all right,” while only 7% of respondents rated their first experience with sexual intercourse as “amazing.” (Of the 82 respondents who had an “amazing” first experience, 90% were men.)

Because sexual curiosity is part of human nature, Adam & Eve, the nation’s most respected name in adult entertainment, recently commissioned Cvent, the event management and web survey software company, to launch a sex survey determining Americans’ sexual practices, and the results are surprising.

“Because the average ratings are overwhelmingly positive, we feel Americans are becoming much more educated, and therefore, comfortable, in all aspects of sex,” says Katy Zvolerin, Adam & Eve Director of Public Relations.

“While the typical American (31% of the males and 30% of the females) admits to having their first sexual experience at age 17 or 18, the study shows that this rite of passage can also be a healthy one.”

The web-based survey, conducted by Cvent, of over 1,000 American adults age 18 and up, was sponsored by Adam & Eve to study sexual preferences and
practices. For more information about Adam & Eve, visit their website at www.adamandeve.com/news.

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